Hello IO, I've read your updates but just got caught up on your entire thread. There is a lot in common with our 'friendly' Hs.
Sounds like you're on the right path measuring your response to H about hiking. Maybe his GH backed out & he wants D to sub. I get in an 'assume the worst' state of mind and find that, even if the results are against me, I'll like myself better when not jumping to conclusions and thinking the best of others.
Hopefully your H will continue to respect your wishes and what's best for D by not forcing GF on her. You mentioned your H hasn't had a conv with D, but does she know anyways from you? I've had a hard time oversharing with kids. It's hard to keep everything inside.
