LRT - Dealing with WAW Affair

[needgrace]

hi RT,

for me, all those thoughts were about avoiding my feelings (yes i am a controlaholic), keeping my focus on her and what i could do as a way to run away from the hurt...

my "guardian angel" cadet told me to take my love for my W and put it in a box and place it high up in the closet for now. that thought has helped me and i hope it helps you.

i thought your handled the texts really well. what everyone here kept telling me to do, over and over :), was to continue to turn the focus onto me. hard for me but it has gotten easier, much easier...

another quote that i printed out and kept with me:

Whatever your fate is, whatever the hell happens, you say, “This is what I need.” It may look like a wreck, but go at it as though it were an opportunity, a challenge. If you bring love to that moment—not discouragement—you will find the strength there. Any disaster you can survive is an improvement in your character, your stature, and your life. What a privilege!! This is when the spontaneity of your own nature will have a chance to flow. Then, when looking back at your life, you will see that the moments which seemed to be great failures, followed by wreckage, were the incidents that shaped the life you have now. You’ll see this is really true. Nothing can happen to you that is not positive. Even though it looks and feels at the moment like a negative crisis, it is not. The crisis throws you back, and when you are required to exhibit strength, it comes.
~ Joseph Campbell Quotes from A Joseph Campbell Companion

you are stronger than you imagine, RT... and just when you think that you can not handle this, you will find even more reserves of strength... and there will be a new confidence within you bc you will know that this strength is always there for you and can take you through anything life offers you.