Stuck..how do I get out???

[tiredndrained]

Hey Nero...their lives parallel their own parents. It is so odd bc my H never wanted to be like his parents and here we are...same journey that his parents took. Last night he was home and present but this morning when I woke I noticed his car was moved last night. He just leaves during the night when I sleep??He is so odd. He was home all weekend and I still believe a few weeks back he had an argument with the OW and that is why he is home more. It should make me feel better that things are cooling with her but to be honest..I feel just as bad. Since BD he has been swearing up and down it is over yet he leaves all night with no explanation and gets angry when I ask if he is with her. Well, of course I don't believe him anyway but if I am correct that it is finally coming to an end, at least for now, then I get so upset that he continues to lie lie lie and think I am some dope for just believing his dumb stories. Its got to end with us or her eventually and I starting to pray it is just with us. As I said before, he won't leave. My C pointed out yesterday why would he go?? It is so comfortable for him. Then I pointed out, it may be comfortable but he was the one that was so miserable and unhappy and thought I was not giving him attention, remember? He was the one who couldn't live with his family any more. So , now is is suddenly so comfortable and familiar that he can't go? Makes no sense.

We are void of emotion in our home too. Stinks. Starting to feel almost robotic. I won't compete with the OW. She can have him. What is wrong with a woman who dates a man that has a wife and living with another family? Obviously there is something wrong with them. They date someone not willing to make a full commitment to them that is never going to be what the want. Someone that will do the same to them if they do stick it out. Its a relationship built on lies and mistrust and sneaking around. How can that end good?

Good advise for the niece. I guess we did get something out of this..we can warn others to look more closely at their potential husbands and show them that history will and does repeat itself.

Dawn..I understand the backslide thing. Just keep going forward that is all we can do. The C says I am doing better but I feel like I am only better bc things are status quo. It doesn't take much to shake things up and set me back.