hey hi- you know, reading your post. my h too and his dad.
HATED HIS DAD when i met him- too tough, never ever pleased or anything good enough. cheated on his mom- trashed her when she left with someone else - full of righteous indignation- all bout him him him him - no one else in universe.
and what does my h turn into- THAT. CAN'T EVEN see it- all about him- his "fun" quotient- him him. cheats - lies - nothing good enough and jacks me allover creation just like his parents (whom he hates) jacked him. his mom said kids only need '"fifteen minutes a day" to raise. no kidding.
he apparently believes i'll be a happy woman with that one little phone call a day = wake up and see who you sound like buddy boy. it's amazing how they become their parents & do not see self at all.
i told my 14 yer old neice- look long and hard at the family any guy comes from before marrying him or geting serious. it's the single best thing i can think to do- see what they will see as the way a family is - will duplicate (possibly).
oh well- sorry for you. it's such a mess isn't it- the baggage these "real men" carry inside and how it screws up us love partners later. oh well....
