This is what worked for me. I let.my wife think about our relationship on her own terms. Sometimes she seemed.like she was just having fun without me and things were not going to come back around. Sometimes I could see that she missed me. The important thing was that I didn't get in he way of all of these feelings and thoughts she needed to have. I didnt interfere with her own process of discovery.
While she was going through that..... I went through my own process of discovery. I thought about what I needed to do differently. I thought about my boundaries...what I was willing to accept and what I wasnt. I made some quick improvements and focused on those to make them stick. I focused on me and the kids.
I understand how frustrating it can be when tor H doesn't understand how good he has it right there at home. If that is such an attraction...how do you show him it is and what he is missing? By GAL...By being the best mom possible...By being a great woman... All of those things take yor effort and focus. You don't have much time for him if you work on these things if this is what you want
Being visually upset and consumed by his actions isn't going to attract him.
