Dawn, Your h is being very honest w/you. He gets tired because he knows that he's hurting you and he knows how wrong he is...that is the guilt talking. Carrying around a boat load of guilt all of the time will make you tired and weary.
BTW, his comments about ending his crisis early and resenting you, etc., is very spot on and it's what we talk about here all of the time about rushing them and then having them circle back and jump start the crisis the second time around and it being worse than before.
Dawn, I know you are frustrated and fed up, but your h is being very truthful w/you. He can't help you or do what you want because he can't help himself. It's difficult when the mlcer lives at home because they are in your face all of the time and yes, eventually the love you had for them either dies or it's put in storage. The lbs becomes resentful and angry w/the mlcer because they are not the people that they once were. Try to accept him for who he is today, not how he use to be. Right now, think of him as having a terminal illness and needs time and space to heal.
Dawn, are you doing things for yourself? Are you planning activities that will get you out of the house and a few hours of pleasure? You need to shift your focus back on to you and your family and the grand baby that is on the way. Leave your h on his toad stool and go on w/your life. Yes, it's difficult, but I know you can do it!
Take care of yourself. Do something nice for yourself today.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
