Have had a good few days hanging with the kids who are on school break. So relaxing not to have to be up and on the school run by 6.50 am! And no homework to fill our every evening.
They are much more relaxed and nice (to me and each other) when they don't see stbx. He pops in and out and upsets the routine, spews anger at us all and leaves everyone on edge.
These days his absence is the preferred option.
I watched Cat on a Hot Tin Roof on the weekend.
An mlc classic! I can recommend it - of course, the happy ending is too good to be true, but hey, apparently it does happen!
And Paul Newman was SO handsome. Breath-taking.
Had a 3-hr mediation session with stbx today. Total bust. He is unbudge-able. Will not provide any financial information and that is that.
Refused also to discuss CS. Said he is paying one set of school fees and that is more than enough.
Honestly he doesn't sound like a candidate for mediation. Can you cut your losses on that and take him to court?
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
HI Ad, Yeah, we are going through the courts as well.
Two appearances so far for no progress - just adjournment dates. It has cost me over $7500 to date....
I gave mediation one last shot in the hope that he'd see the light and agree to do the settlement outside of court.
And you're right; he isn't a candidate for mediation. Medication, yes, but not mediation. And I'm not really joking. He stopped taking BD medication around 18 months before bomb drop, as far as I can tell.
your H sounds like he is unraveling. very odd behaviour.
although you may not have to fear the "coincidences" of H seeming to know where you are all the time.. it probably shouldn't easily dismissed. i don't think you being concerned means you're being a drama queen. it means your radar.. your instincts are kicking in. maybe you should just start documenting things. just a quick running log.
laughable that he is refusing to show financial statements or discuss CS. i am always surprised at how some people feel they make the rules and refuse to cooperate. (((( ))))
Me:38.. H:33. Two beautiful kids S:6 D:3 M:8.. together for 11. Bomb dropped:10/17/11 Separated:11/07/11
And yes, if he is, it certainly could be an invasion of privacy... 