My W and I were getting on when it was her birthday and was unsure what to do. I got her a load of stuff (that she loved) from me and the kids. The next week she told me she was dating.
At the time the birthday felt really important. If I knew she was dating beforehand I would have got her a few bits from the kids.
Sounds like she invited you so she had the leverage to ask for something from you. On top of that she was ignoring you the entire time.
A $40 birthday present isn't going to change your R in the long run. She might have a problem if you didn't do it but not one that would change her mind in any meaningful way. She's having an A with OM and not only does she expect a birthday present from you she wants it early.
It's easy for me to say and hard for you to do but I think you need tell her that you have thought about the present and the answer is no.
She's looking out for her, you need to look out for yourself. How will you feel when you get her the present early and she takes it to show OM?
You know her and your sitch better than anyone else, what do you think the outcome will be if you do or do not get the present?
M36 W31 S4 S2 T5 M4 BD Jan12 S July12 Recon Sep12-Nov12 ILBINILWY Jan13 OM x 2 in 2013 W wants R July 13 I start D. Jan 14. Meet GF Nov 13 Have I changed enough? Jul 14
