After being off the boards for a while, I'm sorry that you seem to be in a state of "limbo." For the longest time, I felt the same way. I mentioned this to KAW by e-mail but it is very easy for all of us to get caught up in the "victim" mentality permeating through soceity that we perceive our spouses generate - and that fed into the posts that I wrote. It took me the longest time to come to the realization that my spouse is no more of a "victim" than I am - and that I choose not to be a victim or to act like one.
Sometimes you truly need to "let go, let God" if a M is going to rebound and become stronger - and it appears that you have arrived at that point, Z. Take care of yourself and do the things that interest you. None of us here are really "trapped" - we make the conscious decision to be where we are. Outside influences can try to steer us in one direction or another but it is our choice whether to go down a particular path. Again, something that I understood but took me some time to finally "get."
It was great to meet you, MAL and the others last year.
Me 52, STBEX 52 D 17, S 12 M 20 years Em Sep since 2002, Phys Sep Sept 2009
