H told me 2 weeks ago that he doesn't see any other path other than divorce. I think I have been doing a pretty good job DB'ing but of course, am an absolute wreck inside. He is so determined, based on the pain from the past (my depression, my withdrawal, lack of intimacy.)
He admits we have made tremendous progress as a couple but still "can't get his feelings back."
He did agree to go to Retrouvaille this past weekend and just returned. It was amazing in terms of the communication--I think we made tremendous strides opening up to each other. He has agreed to do the dialogue and follow up sessions. But no other promises. He does not know how he feels about it all as he needs time and asked me to have patience. I told him that no plans should change right now (he has an apt to move into June 1) but take the advice of the Retrouvaille couples--take it slow. He has agreed to that. He said he needs to really think about the concept of "love being a decision."
He said he was envious of the couples who were able to profess their rekindled love after the weekend away. I just wonder if it's possible for his walls to come down to love me again.
Any advice on how I should proceed as we participate in Retrouvaille while he stills plans to move out? Has anyone has success with it?
Me 47/H 47 M 19/T 21 S 11 S 11 BD #1: April 2012 H Moved out 11/2012 for 2 months BD #2: H "can't do this anymore, wants divorce" 4/10/2013 Retrouvaille 4/19/2013
