W and I began alternating weeks at the house about a month ago. At that time W suggested my mother come watch S12 because he got home at 3pm, and I wouldn't get to the house until 6pm. W has always had rocky relationship with my mother because my mother says stupid things like "Maybe your kid is autistic" or "My son never wanted kids."
This week was my week at the house with the kids. W sends a text that she is taking the kids to the park and will meet me at the house at 6pm. W calls around 5pm (while I am on the train coming home). She was yelling at me because my mother was at our house. My mother left as soon as W arrived (no talking). W said she felt it wasn't her house. I wasn't open to arguing on the train. I hung up the phone and texted her that I understood her frustration with my mother. I offerred to talk about not having my mother come to the house.
W did not respond. When I got home, W just left without a word. She later texted that she no longer wanted a joint b-day party for D2 which is in 2 weeks.
I've been working hard at being kind but detaching (not getting into a fight or initiating conversation/contact). I think the detachment is getting to W. I think she is responding with anger because she is confused. It just seems like she is trying really hard to get a fight. We seem to be at the point that the only time she wants to talk to me is to yell at me or be angry. All other conversations (money/kids) are by text.
I understand my W is upset. I feel kind of sorry for her. It's got to be hard dealing with all that anger and resentment. She doesn't get to be with her kids everyday. I hope she figures out how to be happy. I'm happy. Her attitude doesn't bring me down anymore. I wish I could share my happiness with her. I guess I'll just have to share it with my kids and friends.
