I wish i could offer some advice but im so new to this, but just want to offer some hugs. I feel for you and your kiddos.

H:25 M:25
T: 9 1/2 Yrs
M: 5 Yrs

trouble in paradise: 1/18
Big D: 2/10
EA confirmed 3/11
H Leaves me: 3/30
Files: 4/8
Served: 4/15
OW Confirmed: 8/6
Divorce Final: ???