Thanks Snodderly! You always seem to know when to remind me to dig deeper at just the right times
The OW thing is just so damn frustrating at times. I feel like they've been sneaking around for at least 15 months now, isn't it time for her spell to be broken?
And as for me continuing on with my life and doing things... Well, it was once again a topic of discussion tonight.
H had golf tonight. So last night I texted my friend to see if she wanted to come over with the kids. It was supposed to be decent weather, and they could all play outside. Things were hectic this morning, and I forgot to tell H.
No big deal, right? Wrong!
H comes home from golf in a bad mood. Doesn't come upstairs right away, instead puts weed and feed on the lawn. I looked outside just in time to see him texting after pushing the spreader about every ten feet. Nice!
He does say goodnight to boys, but barely looks at me. Hey, I'm used to that by now! So once I get the boys down, I begin packing lunches. He asks me from the other room how my evening was. I told him I had my friend and her kids over, and he got mad.
It's the same thing I have been hearing... Why didn't I tell him beforehand, why are my plans such a secret, if I wanted communication to improve, why have I gotten worse about telling him things?
Now, we all know he is the king of secrets, lies, half truths, and lies of omissions. So for him to tell me that he always lets me know what he is doing is a bunch of bullshi!t.
I explained to him that sometimes things just happen last minute. (He brought up when I do things with my parents too) I told him my parents often email me at work to see if we have plans that day. I said I could forward him the emails in the future. He said no, he really doesn't care that much.
Really? Then why is he making such a big deal all the time?!?!
I gave him examples of upcoming things I have planned that I let him know about. He said I still don't tell him everything. Whatever.
I could have very easily given him examples of how he doesn't tell me things last minute or after the fact, but felt that would only be used against me. Plus, I don't want him to think I'm even paying attention to what he does that much
I said I would do my best to let him know my plans ahead of time, but that sometimes things do come up last minute. He was still p!ssed.
Whatever.
And yes, my fingers were in effect from the other room.
I'm guessing this isn't really about me having my friend over - he was already in a bad mood and this was just the icing on the cake for him.
Oh well. My GAL is full steam ahead. Not my fault his life is a sinking ship.
Goodnight everyone
Bomb January 2012 - doesn't feel the same about me
~ "There is nothing love cannot face; there is no limit to its faith, hope, and endurance."
