You don't need to defend her or her choices to anyone. They were hers to make.
Your relationship is over and anything from here on out is speculation. Do not waste time speculating on what might have been or what was or what wasn't.
Now is the time for what is
What are the lessons you learned? what can you take away from this?
if you didn't learn a lesson, you will be doomed to repeat the same scenario over and over
Very true Fig. We can all speculate on what she was thinking or what her true motives were blah blah blah but it doesn't change anything nor is it helpful. It was what it was. There were some really wonderful times I will continue to cherish and many not so good that will not be forgotten either. So basically, it is the lessons to be taken away from all this that matter. Yes indeed!
I was watching TV this morning while having my breakfast. It so happened they were interviewing a relationship expert who has just written a book called Get The Man. He said that one of the most important things a woman can do to attract a man is to say "could you please help me with something". A man will "jump into knight in shining armour mode" and he'll come back. I almost put my cereal through my nose...he forgot to mention that after 14 months it will get real stale lol.
Wii... I beleive there is some truth to that... everyone likes to feel needed
it is just taken advantage of that we tire of or clung to or depended upon for everything
when we enter into a relationship, we believe we are entering into one with our equal...some people have strengths in certain areas (for example, Cori is really handy with cars and I can make a mean dessert...so, while I CAN do the auto repair stuff, I suggest that he do it...he is far better, faster, and less likely to cause more damage)
The problem comes in when there is all taking or all giving...if you are constantly giving, people will take. It is human nature.
You, Wii, need to learn how to receive. To give and to ask for what you need (and expect to get it from a partner who is fully committed to the relationship)
