Z, the bouts are part of a normal marriage. As someone pointed out to me, marriage is not supposed to be a package you sign up for at the beginning and everything falls into place. Instead, it is experiental and reveals new things to you every day. Those occcasional bouts let both of you learn more about yourselves and the other. This is good as long as you practice humility and true discussion, rather than self-righteousness! Judging from your recents posts, it sounds like both of you are doing exactly that!
I think you are developing a wonderful marriage! Kudos to the both of you!
