Bingo! That is one of the major things on my list of things I learned, Kml. My best friend has been dating women from POF and he was dating a Filipino lady recently and after a few dates, although he liked her, he didn't continue. He said she'd talk over dinner about how hard her life was with tears in her eyes. He thought to himself "is this what I want to spend my life listening to?" Nope. He moved on.
