Maybe a vet has another pov, but would dark, in your situation be considered sulking and give the wrong impression? I swear, shiss, I know you and we react the same way. I was dark for months. Did not speak to H about anything and if offered help I told him I was fine and I thrived. I lived a huge f*ck you. Didn't get me where I wanted to be. It wasn't until I started being friendly that I saw any results in communication with H. And I'm still not seeing the results I want, but at least we're having positive communication. And my H had expressed verbally once 'you guys don't even need me'. And I was like, that's right... Be genuine and kind, imo. I wonder about the time I lost by being dark. And you don't have all the time in the world...
