I have a few questions..before everyone starts drilling me about detaching, I'm really trying, but these are really nagging me. I'd especially like to hear from some WAS's on these ones, but any insight is appreciated.
Assuming that my W does someday begin to 'find her way back':
1) How much of an obstacle might her pride/stubbornness be? 2) How much of an obstacle might her embarrassment/shame/guilt be? 3) Are there ways to try to alleviate the obstacles? Is she likely to discard them as reasons not to reconcile?
For example,my wife has expressed concerns over what other think..."your family probably hates me now..." This suggests that she is playing this all out, reconsidering, but views this as an insurmountable obstacle to mending our relationship. Is validation all I can or should be doing here? I sure as h-e-double hockey sticks hope not...pretty scary thought that a beautiful love might be quenched not by lack of love, but something like this.
