Sizing up the task ahead!

[mrtwopointfour]

Here is the last thread which got a little long so have started this new one

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2341837&page=1

It does seem that W could be in MLC. I have tried to work out if she is and where she is. Considering 5 or 6 months ago she had a breakdown and from that moment on treating me like the enemy, I am guessing this is either when she entered the tunnel or went into the angry stage.

In the MLC resources, the stages of MLC posts, I read that Depression is stage 4. However can this come at any time? My W had serious and dangerous depression end of last year before BD. So not sure how that helps me timeline wise.

Something I need thoughts and advice on, regarding preparing the house to sell. We have no reason to put the house on the market yet. W has not got a job and therefore she can not afford to live in her own place, and we also need to clear debt. However she is determined to clear stuff out, paint the house etc. This is nothing new to me, I have been doing painting and maintenance on the house since we got to our first place. But W seems to be wanting to go from room to room, painting and clearing. I don't want to move at such a pace, but feel that she is irritated that i am dragging my heels a little - to the point where she is doing it herself to prove a point. Also I feel she is saying - this is easy why did you not do this every weekend and we could be done by now. (how long until the novelty wears off!)

So do I join in and get it done quickly or let her go through the motions?

I am also beginning to consider whether OM is putting pressure on, or she is wanting her own place to be able to be with him. The reason I say this is that she went out with friends and came back happy. Then went off for a while to her room, and came back with a bit of a tone to her voice, and started talking about starting painting on the next room. Almost as if she had spoken to OM and they had discussed being together, prompting desperation again in W. Of course, I am reading into W's actions again, something I should know not to do! GAL / PMA etc.

Anyway thats my first post done. I am just starting to realise how big a task I am facing if W is in MLC.