This is a good one. I'm pretty good about apologizing when I act like a jerk. H is pretty good at getting a rise out of me when he acts like a jerk and then offering no apology.
Today, he called me at work angry about something that my housepainter had done. He was chewing me out about what the painter had done and all of the problems it was going to cause (nothing worth yelling about IMO). Instead of getting defensive, I just thought, "This is really bizarre that I'm getting yelled at when he's mad at someone else." So I sat there silently listening to my husband carry on at the top of his voice for almost a solid minute. He started to wind down a little and I still said nothing. Finally he said, "Okay, that's all I have to say. Will you call him and take care of this?" I said, "Yes, I will." Then we ended the call.
He called back an hour later and apologized for yelling at me. I told him that I knew he would eventually realize what he had done and that I appreciated him apologizing. We talked a little about how our days were going and then ended the call. So far so good.
