Just remembered, my DB coach told me "you know, you have a real problem with impatience". Yeah yeah, I know... moving on...
I get the feeling you're in the same boat. Point is, you've been a real go-getter since coming here - what can I do? what's next? now what?
I get it and did the same thing. But you'll have to feel the hurt before you can move on from it. And I think your action plan has distracted you from the pain. Then the fact that your H has really rushed the D hasn't helped matters...
Just give yourself time to heal. This forum can be a real magnet for people who want a PLAN! But sometimes you just need to get through the day and center your feelings. And you can't plan for that.