I know it sounds bitter, but it's his loss and I am worthy of being loved and I don't need him to make me happy.
That's pretty much been your attitude from your very first post:
"Hope you had a good Easter. I’m done being in limbo, need to move on."
"I’m done being a string along. I know it’s only been 12 days but I’m his wife, not some girl he picked up at a bar"
"He’s a coward and is bailing, and I’m sick of being the string along."
"I’ve been dark since Sunday night. No contact, nothing."
I don't think you ever really tried anything, you seemed convinced from the beginning that being cold and distant was the answer, but that's the way you were throughout the marriage:
"I've always been insecure/fearful of rejection and never being good enough, so it comes out in anger, pushing H away. That's been going on for years."
So it was just "more of the same" behavior. Sounds like you've written this marriage off, but I'll just warn you that it sounds like you're going to carry a lot of the same baggage into your next relationship. You've still got a lot of work to do, if not for this marriage than for your future.
