MLC by MIL death/daughter car accident/new job

[Live4myDay]

I am divorced now going into my 3rd year. That's the problem. He has no reason to ever see me or be a part of "my" life ever again, except for our kids D21 & S20. There will still be those life family events such as graduation and marriages etc., but I cannot be best friends. I love him still and while he is with OW I can't act as if we're friends and that our 25 year history was rewritten by him. It hurts too much. That's my boundary. I will be cordial and nice and show him that I GAL without him. I will do my DB/DR as much as I can and have focused on GAL and PMA and doing my 180. I will be the X everyone says how could he have left! My 3 main goals at this point are:
1. When he comes to visit daughter at end of May, I will have been doing my weight watchers and lost at least 10-15 lbs.
2. I will be running at least 3x a week at "6am". A 180 for me since I am a night owl.
3. I will have started to paint again and be working on a new painting bringing my creative talent to the forefront of my PMA. I put painting aside for many years while raising family. It makes me feel good to let my creative out!