This is interesting. During some of the first conversations with W after BD she explained how she did not want to be like her mother. She always thought her mother gave up everything for marriage and kids. She told me that when she was young she saw her mother close to committing suicide. She has never told anybody about this, and claims that to this day she thinks her mother never really loved her father - but just put up with it, and died before her time should have been up and unhappy.

This is exactly the reason W wants divorce. She is miserable and does not want to put up with it just for kids, she wants to get a new life now, not be like her mother.


Me: 38 W: 35
M: 9Yrs T: 15Yrs
S8 D5
BD: Feb 13
Still Living Together

I feel like I'm in thick forest, I'm slowly drawing a map of the way out, but not sure yet which side of the forest I will emerge.