I know in my head that what a MLC'er/WAW goes thru is not pleasant but on some days can't stopping thinking about the fact that they are choosing to go thru it, the LBS and children are not.......
I feel very strongly that they really DON'T "choose" to go through this, though it sure can seem like it from our side, and from what they say, and maybe at one point they DO believe it themselves.
It is a drive to escape their pain. Fight or flight, not much choosing...not "whether to" , but rather, "what method or how to"...imo.
The past few months my W (slowly making her way out of the tunnel) has been repeating "I am so sick of this and feeling like this, I just want it to stop, and have for a long time..."
Just a thought... T^2
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
