Going dark and not trying to change his mind are good first steps. Please remember you have no control in this and the if you contest and have your lawyers drag their feet you will rack up lawyer bills that may saddle you in the future.....
HE believes that he has made his mind up. Whatever he says to you he may say to "soften the blow". He filed. Whatever comes out of his mouth is blah blah blah.
At THIS point its all about YOU! I dont know the timelines in your area but its 6-8 months before a mediator up here. Let him do his thing but you need to get "Your thing" going. You work- how are your financials? what can you do to put yourself in the best position? Do you own a home or rent? I know in my situation im already trying to change my mindset from "our home" to "the house" and referring to My Daughter and I only as "My family"
Its heartbreaking in the beginning- but It gets easier
IN NO WAY HAVE I GIVEN UP
ME 38 W 37 T18 M5 D3 BD 1/7/13 PA Conf 2/11/13- Ongoing 2nd simultaneous affair Confirmed 4/19/13 W gets APT and begins transition out 5/29/13 First mediation appt 12/19/13
