This week I did some cool things just for me. I'm working on ways to get myself out into the world without upsetting the balance with H. I had a brief e-mail exchange this week with someone who is interested in starting an Italian conversation group. Including H, it looks like we'll have about five people. H is very interested in this particular project and thinks it's cool. I'm a little surprised at his response, but glad that he's taken an interest.
I also joined bookcrossings this week. It's a website that acts as a database for books that have been "released" into the wild. Basically, we're a bunch of book nuts who register our books and then leave them for other people to find. The idea is that other people find the book, read it, post journal entries to the site and re-release it for someone else to do the same. It's a quirky enough idea that I thought I'd do it with a few of my books that I can't store anymore. I released two books today.
Tonight I am going briefly to a book club reception. The local library hosts a quarterly reception for people who have read a bunch of books from their list. Alas, H is anti-reading, so it would bore him immensely. I'm going for a little while before I meet up with him for our Friday night dinner party.
Not all of my plans went quite so smoothly. I pretty much botched my plans for tomorrow. I've had the 20th slated for a month as the day I would repair some of the stucco on the house. On the other hand, I've been trying to invest more time in my friendships, so last weekend an opportunity arose. I made arrangements to help a friend organize her office this weekend, AND scheduled it right over our C session. Triple booked! OUCH! H was understanding about rescheduling the C for my friend's sake. (She's under a deadline.)
I'm not entirely sure how I'm going to fit stucco repair into my schedule now, but I will. I suspect H is hoping I'll forget about it. Ha! I'm not sure why he's so discouraging when it comes to me doing work around the house.
I also feel a little bad about something that happened today. One thing that I believe was a big issue for H and I, was me putting my work first. When he asked me to pick him up from a doctor's appointment today, I jumped right in. I even volunteered to take part of the day off. He discouraged me from putting myself out, since the hospital is notorious for not having their act together. He was afraid I'd be waiting around for a long time. He told me over and over again about how I could drop him off in the morning on my way to work (a bit early for his appointment) and pick him up around lunch time. It didn't go that way at all.
I dropped him off; and the nurse immediately said, "Great go in there and change. We'll get your IV started." I went into work and not an hour later they called to say he was ready to pick up. SO, I had to explain to my boss why I was taking my lunch break two and a half hours early... not good, especially since he only had today to get things done between his trips out of town. When I got to the hospital, my H kept asking me to go to breakfast with him. He was so cute, all doped up from the anesthesia, but I only had enough time to get back to work. UGH!
It would have been entirely different if I had just arranged in advance to take leave time. There would have been no grumpy boss and no disappointed husband. Even if the hospital had kept me waiting into the afternoon, at least people at the office would have been prepared to get things done without me there. Live and learn.
