I think your H and my ex-b are very similar. Ex-b was so upset when I've said previously that I can't just be pals. How do you do that with someone you love and have years worth of history with?
Ex-b is also REALLY bad with compliments. When we first met, he wasn't bad - not great, but okay. After a few months, he started talking a lot about how other women were cute (to get me worked up, I suppose) and I got fewer and fewer compliments. And they often had a "but" attached to them. Like..how I had a good heart "but" he didn't know if that made us compatible. Crap like that. Blecch.
It irritates me sometimes now to hear him talk nice about other people, but even if I fish for a compliment, it's tough to get one out of him. Why is it that I get so many compliments from everywhere but where I want them?
I hope things get better for you, I do read your thread often. I know there are many moments now where I just want to throw in the towel - if ex-b wants me, he needs to do the pursuing (if and when he wants that). You've been here longer than me, and I hope you get what you deserve - a wonderful, supportive husband who is attracted to you.
