take NC a moment at a time, tell yourself i only need to get through this minute or hour.... and then the next.
when i was at that place, i made a document full of helpful quotes (Pema, jack Kornfield, Tara Brach, people on the DB board) and then i made posts its of some of the most needed of those and put those up on my mirrors, fridge, etc. to help me.
i also listened to cds by pema over and over again and talks by tara brach (free on her website)
i had a few friends that were willing to allow me to talk and talk in my attempt to make sense of my story.. i know that asking why can seem pointless but i believe that we tell our stories over and over again when there is trauma in an attempt to make sense of them.
i gave myself compassion for the moments that i was unable to read/pray/think about growth... and allowed myself to process this all at my own pace, as i was able..
i posted to some other newbies on the DB board that became dear, dear friends and provided me so so much support...
