Yes Barb, believe me, I've been over all the "signs"...too often lately lol. I don't think it was that she wasnt' that into me, it was that she was controlling. She controlled so much in the relationship and I either didn't see it or dismissed it. In the end that recognition onmy part just wouldn't go away. She stroked me and said sweet things to me, and I believe she meant them, but they also made me really susceptible to sticking with a situation that most men would not have. I am loyal and caring but there's a limit to what's good for anyone in such a situation. In the end I told her that I can't imagine any man putting up with this situation for two months let alone fourteen! So now, instead of trying to fix her stuff, she's running off to POF to get another man to make her feel better. It pretty much reinforces why I ditched her. It's pathetic. Anyway, thanks for your thoughts, they are certainly helpful. Good luck in bailing out your cottage home!
