How is "going back to your apartment" going to help you on your journey? There are lots of ways to get confidence back, is this really the best way to do it? Did it help YOU work through your stuff?
Do you consider yourself still M'd?
What do your vows mean to you right now?
How do 2 wrongs make a right?
I just want you to think through this stuff. If you are really UNSURE if you want your W back then this is not going to help. You need to figure it out one way or the other. Seems to me like a lot of excuses for a one night stand.
I've read so many of the old sitches where people have went this route and guess what, it burned almost each and every one of them and caused more hurt.
Spartan, I have been thinking this through this weekend. 2 wrongs certainly don't make a right. I don't consider my wife and I do be in a "committed relationship" at this point, but your right it still goes against our vows. I don't consider myself to be married right now unfortunately though and haven't felt that way in a year or so. My wife and I were living two separate lives under one roof. I will have a clearer mind on these things from now on, but I refuse to also just sit here in limbo land while she continues to see OM. I'm not going to jut wait on her to see if that works or not. Which seems very much like what she is doing right now. I guess time will tell
M 37 W 30 S 7 Together 10 years Married 9 years BD: 12/12/12(W filed same day) I moved to apartment 1/11/13 W and S moved to MIL 1/11/13 Peicing: 6/3/13 Reconciled: 7/2013 BD2: 4/20/16 still working on it
