I wanted my W to work on things in September when we starting getting back together but she do very much. Other than dropping OM I think it's unrealistic to expect her to change anything else until she see's there is a need or wants to.
What is her motivation to change?
I would hope that she has a 3 and half year old son would be enough motivation for her to change. It's been like this for a year, not just since BD. I was contemplating divorce 6 months before she filed as well. But back in November I decided to start working on things and do things differently. If she wants to be the person she has become then I am ok with divorce. I will do my best to keep a good relationship with we for our son, but that is it.
M 37 W 30 S 7 Together 10 years Married 9 years BD: 12/12/12(W filed same day) I moved to apartment 1/11/13 W and S moved to MIL 1/11/13 Peicing: 6/3/13 Reconciled: 7/2013 BD2: 4/20/16 still working on it
