I don't know why as I thought I had managed to get over this. Its a bit of an emotional tug of war at the moment. When she is nice to me confident and happy I get pulled back in. When she is needy, or moody or nasty i am not that bothered any more.
You may be "over" one of the hills, but sorry to say you're in the MLC mountain range. Its a long trek, you'll have good days, sometimes a lot in a row, and then WHAM, a bad day slams into you.
This "tug of war" is much more easily avoided when you do "the process".
Detach, GAL, 180.
Find your own center so that her mood doesn't become YOUR mood.
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(in hindsight I should not have kept these up)
should NOT? Or did you mean should HAVE?
Very glad to hear that you are pursuing different avenues of happiness/ fulfillment for yourself. I hear you about the "married friends"... I don't even know any single people lol.
Have a great day 2.4!
Me 46 H 56 M 22 yrs S22, D20, Twin Ss18
You teach people how to treat you by what you allow. What you stop. And what you reinforce. ~~~~~~~ A lack of boundaries invites a lack of respect.
