mizjjd thanks for your post and sorry i've not had chance to post back yet to your previous questions.
You are right, I am focusing on my W too much. I don't know why as I thought I had managed to get over this. Its a bit of an emotional tug of war at the moment. When she is nice to me confident and happy I get pulled back in. When she is needy, or moody or nasty i am not that bothered any more.
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Try to not think 2 years down the road - nobody can predict the future. Did you predict this sitch 2 years ago? I'm betting not.
No correct, would not have predicted this 6 months ago - there is no way in the world this would have happened to us, we were happy
GAL's well I am taking up an old hobby or two, things I gave up when W and I moved in together. (in hindsight I should not have kept these up). I have also just signed up to 'Meet Up', which seems like a great way to meet people that have similar interests - i need to make new friends - all of mine are married off, or live in other parts of the world. I am also looking into a new hobby which is something I always wanted to do but has a start up cost involved which is tricky right now, especially as I need to sit down with W and tighten the budgets for us both, and her amazing ability to spend little on the family but bits on either herself or save for trips away!
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Venting is great, but it needs to be balanced by news of YOU and what steps YOU are taking.
Agree, i have a thread in newcomers called me, me, me where i am trying to get my goals sorted, Cadet told me to keep to one forum, but I didn't listen!!!
Me: 38 W: 35 M: 9Yrs T: 15Yrs S8 D5 BD: Feb 13 Still Living Together
I feel like I'm in thick forest, I'm slowly drawing a map of the way out, but not sure yet which side of the forest I will emerge.
