X demands full custody because I'm engaged, Part 2

[sleeper]

Counselor cancelled appointment (sick). I went to L's office instead, Letter will be sent out today. I might be able to get police to take action if she keeps kids Monday night as orders say "alternating weeks and Mon will mark three weeks she's had them (violation now obvious as she has denied alternation).. L just sees violation as violation with no degree of severity

I saw my kids at school district student of year banquet last night (DD student if year at her school). I have DD a dozen roses in honor of her accomplishment. X texted, "you touched her heart." Gave son a pack of game cards. He seemed concerned he shouldn't have them at dinner so I introduced him to the chest pocket on inside of his sport coat. I think he was pleased.

[sleeper]

I AM SICK TO MY STOMACH.

Received email from L. They sent the letter but it's INCORRECT ! Says X should comply with court order and is in violation for denying me "visitation" with my children. I dont have "visitation" I have joint custody and she is denying me my alternating weeks of custody of the children. Two trips to the L's office and a letter fee for that screw up. X wi only be empowered as she is treating me as of she has full custody and gets to decide when I can have visitation already.

I hate attorneys as I hate hell, all Montagues and iced tea.

[kat727]

I hope you got right back in touch with them to have them fix their error at no charge. What a mess! Stay strong, I a sure this will work out for you.

kat

[figgeroni]

it is my understanding that even with custody...when they are denying you your week...it is termed as visitation

this is only from our own dealings with Cori's ex violating custody orders etc

[sleeper]

The custody orders say, "shared joint custody" with each parent to have "physical custody on alternating weeks."

The word "Visitation" doesn't appear in the document.

[sleeper]

I texted my kids today to stay in touch, asked them if they had been to see their grandmother (my mom). Kids said "no". X then texted me (they were together), said I could have them and go to dinner if wanted. I responded I would not interrupt her time with them but would take then next week when it was my time.

Much irrational texting from X ensued. My few responses were to the fact she had no authority to set "visitation" for me and she was violating a court order (ratio of texting was probably 10/01 with her doing the most).

This city with a population of 250,000 is so small X with DD in her vehicle pulled up beside me at a traffic light on my way home tonight. DD recognized my vehicle and drew X's attention to the fact. X pulled up and glared at me through her side window.

Tomorrow would begin my week to have the kids in a normal situation.

I'm considering calling child protective services myself.

Any suggestions?

[SunFunOne]

I suggest talking to your lawyer before doing ANYTHING.

That's all I've got other than that I'm sorry this is happening to you.

I feel even sorrier for your kids.

Barb

[figgeroni]

you can call child protective services although they will be unable to do anything unless she is harming the children (and unfortuantely, this does NOT count as harming them)

The only way to change the situation is to go back to court and have specific dates put on your custody agreement

And again...

the only way to enforce that is through civil court...not criminal court

it [censored] all the way around but it is what it is

[sleeper]

L's secretary responded to my concerns of use of "visitation" rather the "physical custody."

"I don't think the wording will make that much difference but I'll bring it to Mr Lawyer's attention."

I expected as much.

[kml]

Can you just pick the kids up from school tomorrow - maybe a few minutes early, so as to avoid a scene?