I am starting to doubt my own resilience to see this through for a start.
We all do. No one said this would be easy. Thing is, giving up on our wives doesn't offer any guarantee of happiness either.
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I am wondering if I really had the M I thought I had. On reflection I too realised I had a lot of unmet needs in the M and how much I had lost myself.
We all do this too. But the old marriage is dead and gone, so it doesn't matter that it wasn't perfect. If we do R, it will be a new and better marriage.
I'd rather fix US, than start a new relationship, which will only become old in a few years too. And W and I don't even have kids! You and your W are tied together for life, there's no going your own way and forgetting about her. That's extra incentive to wait it out.
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IDK, for the first time I am looking at W and don't feel as attracted to her anymore.
Feelings come and go. You've been together a long time, so there's something there. If she were to start speaking your LL, I bet it would melt your heart. This is your goal. Building a new M where you both speak each others LL regularly.
You've stuck it out this long, don't give up now.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
