Just thinking about things from this past week. Ever since the one decent conversation W and I had she has been very cold. It seems from reading on these boards that hot/cold is normal behavior. Family time today was worse than it has been as far as that is concerned.
W and S came to my house and had been stuck in traffic getting here. I started to say to W that I felt bad they had a rough trip over but she turned her back to me and went into the bathroom without saying a word. The cold shoulder basically went all afternoon. She escaped partway to do S's laundry. Last couple of family days same thing. W has a reason to leave as shortly after arrival.
My reason for looking into the whole thing: does this appear to be "normal" WAS behavior? Or perhaps I need to pull away and give more space? Maybe cancel family day for a few weeks? I have been calm about things when it happens, but it just makes for a very awkward day. S wants us together but the whole thing is a sham.
One more question if anyone has advice about this: W always hugs me when we part, usually it is a really sterile lean-in hug. Occasionally it is the real thing. I am starting to hate it though. Just making me irritated that she even feels the need to hug me in a fake way. I get nothing out of it. At the moment I feel like either saying something (which seems like it wouldn't go well) or just not hugging back. Not looking to cause waves, but I don't feel like it is good for me.
Feeling a little annoyed about our interactions. Just want consistency in my life so I am not distracting my energy from myself and son.
Me-36 W-31 M-7 S-5 BD Dec/12- things were wrong for awhile, head was in the sand
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