Really galbaby? Because I've felt so pessimistic after MC appt! I think it was a big dose of reality. When you're in limbo for so long, it's easy to get expectations or have big dreams but the appt was a firm pull back down to reality and facing some truths about our past R and the obstacles facing a future R.
I appreciate you saying that's where he is at present, that's the only thing I keep thinking in my head. And I try to remember that I didn't think I wanted my M for a few months after he left. It wasn't until I started learning and reading that I figured out there were a lot of mistakes and things that could have been done differently. Like labug said, I need to try to remember that H hasn't had the benefit of learning and he's just beginning the process. What he does with the knowledge once it's acquired will be his choice.
labug, your words really helped me this morning recognizing that drinking is a symptom to his unhappiness. Just like my anger was a symptom to my unhappiness. I've been digesting this appt all week and should have posted about it earlier because I felt like I was losing hope. Very cautious now. But that's probably not a bad thing.
After MC appt, I did go to an Al-Anon meeting last week too. I think, in going to the meeting, I was reacting to my fear and lack of understanding about alcoholism. I need some time and to remind myself to not jump to conclusions. I don't have a history with alcohol abuse in my family and my thinking is pretty black/white. Only because I'm unfamiliar with it. I'll go to Al-Anon again because the premise I got out of it was it was for anyone affected by the negative effects of alcohol and I think my family would still fall into that category.
'accepting life as it is' I'm going to work hard at adapting this thinking. My expectations for my life haven't got me where I thought they would anyways. But the peace and understanding I've learned will prove priceless I'm sure.
