MLC by MIL death/daughter car accident/new job

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Ok after doing a lot more reading I think my XH was a WAH and triggered by MLC. He was so sure of his decision. Never was in limbo. Just up and knew it was over he had enough of me and of course changed marriage history. Some truths be told but not reason to leave. He became night and day. Do I handle this DB/DR to my situation any differently knowing this? I wish I had known about this site so much sooner! He says he tried everything and put more into the marriage than I did. But gave me all the IDLYAM and we need to move on the M is over, etc. confused of course??? And the OW who met his emotional needs as he decided to end the marriage which turned into full relationship while we were apart for 6 months. I was trying to work on saving marriage instead he was done and starting a new R but never told anyone about her until 3 months after divorce was final. All this while so much happening in our family with daughters accident and recovery and son graduating high school moving on to college. It never occurred to him thar his family would suffer so much loss. We could never get through to him. He was adamit about his decision.