WAS and I had a counselling session last week, we talked about the baseline that would need to be in place for her to stay. She said that it would need to be a guarantee that I would not ask her to leave or force a sale of the house. I committed to do that.
I knew she was considering signing a lease and that it need to be signed last Friday, I did not raise the subject so as not to make it feel I was placing pressure. Nothing has been said and today she said she has signed and she felt I had not cared because I did not raise it.
She is very upset by my actions, such as calling the car my car, as it is in my name and I pay the HP instalments. Yet there is no guilt about her having an affair or walking away without even trying. It feels like it is my fault.
I told her I was very sad that she had decided to leave, that I had committed that I would not force her out however I wanted her to be happy. I told her I was concerned about the children, which she interpreted as a guilt trip on her.
I think now I need to go into LRT and step back, GAL and withhold all emotions.. When she goes I want to make it a clean break, no coming back into the house but also at the moment there is a door should she want to come back and try R in the future.
Me 44 WAS 41 T 11 S 8 D 5 DB November 2012 EA and PA discovered December 2012 WAS moved out 4 May 2013 Share residence of S and D 50/50 WAS moves in with OM 1 September 2013.
