Wasnt sure which one to post to but I like the title of this one better.
I just wanted to answer what you asked on JP's thread.
You dont have to trust your wife. I am sure you have reason not to.
Here's the thing. Telling her that you dont trust her is the problem.
Right now, she doesnt care if you trust her or not.
And telling her you dont is not helping you.
The way through all this is to become the best you. When you make the changes and they are real, when you say to yourself, no matter what happens, I will be ok.
When you tell yourself that you are moving forward with your life without regard to what your wife is doing. When you become strong and act with dignity.
Only then will there be a chance to forge a future with your wife.
She is on a journey that she has to take. You getting in the way of it stops her moving forward and it stops you, too.
C, think about what you hope to accomplish by telling her you dont trust her.
Let her blow in the wind right now.
You worry about you.
Become who you were meant to be. That is what will give you the best chance of saving your marriage.
Continuing to do the same things over and over - wont.
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