first time & need help still

[albamarie]

"You may be a strict Stander, or you may choose to Stand without a strict aversion to divorce, or you may simply be uncertain whether your relationship is worth a Stand. It is for each individual to choose whether to Stand, or whether to step down. Some Standers are for Life, continuing to Stand knowing restoration of their marriages is unlikely."

The last sentence reminds me of a movie where the mom confesses long after dad dies that she new he was a player. Hell no! I don't want this for myself. Why would a man deserve to have two lives, at my expense especially!

Here I stand, and I hate him more for having to be here, he uprooted my life, he should pay!