thanks Gabby and Wonder, I in no way think she was a golddigger, if so she never would have dated me! I'm in social services, how much money is in that?! I believe she was just a lady who was biting off way more than she could chew. She wasn't just going through a major employment change (in a country where she'd never looked for work before) she was also, at the same time, starting a new relationship. She really hadn't had a relationship in over 12 years. She left the Philippines when her daughter was four and came home once per year for two weeks. How does anybody maintain a marriage in that kind of condition. She's been divorced for two years and aside from dating a few POF prospects (who all wanted sex on the first to third dates but got the boot instead), I was her first serious love interest. That's a lot of sh!t to deal with at the same time. So, her anxiety and need to control her environment went nuts. She had difficulty handling it all and wanted her man to take care of her and she was real needy. Me, I got caught up in wanting to make it all better for her. Maybe it was easier to just concentrate on that rather than saying "hey, what's in this for me?" I dunno. But, if she wants to go the POF route again without first trying to get the rest of her life in order, that's her trip. The gravy train will just crash and spill all over again but, my job is to look after me now. That's a big enough job as is lol.
