I really think that we can make it, Girl

[reachingHigher]

For them, it is not a crises, it is an awakening, and they feel like they are finally on the correct path. Everything in their past means nothing to them, including us. We only remind them of their life they see as a failure.

When we understand this it helps us to be compassionate towards them, and not take their rejection of us so personally. It really is about them, not us.

This is the greatest pain that you and I have likely faced in our life, but know that theirs is even worse!

Yes, how did I miss this! This is so insightful, so on-target, so calming!

It helps to build compassion to know that our spouses aren't purposefully trying to hurt us. That's just a by-product. They are trying to grow....be the best they can be.

The class has been going as well or even better than I had ever hoped! I have 10 students, and have held two sessions so far. Everyone is very excited about it... lots of positive comments. Even people not in the class are coming up to me and commenting about it. This has really helped to build my self esteem, which actually wasn't doing all that bad to begin with.

So ^^^^^ I would think understanding your W's crisis through her eyes has helped you have the compassion you need to be a loving LBS and also helped your self-esteem not be crushed.

You're doing a great job, FY, and I'm so glad there is good interest in the TKD!