Ruby, I have a theory called the "New Car" syndrome lol. Basically when we purchase a new car we love it, the smell, the clean upholstery, the perfect and shiny exterior. We take care of it by washing, waxing and changing the oil. Well, as the years go by that new car takes a few dings and scratches. We go from washing the car every week to maybe once a month, to once a year to never. That great new car eventually becomes that piece of crap sitting in the driveway and we hope someone would just steal it so we can get the insurance money. If we could remember the good that car has done for us and understand that the next "New Car" will eventually become the next piece of crap, then we would work at maintaining it and perhaps change our attitude about it.
Hows that for weird hahahahahaha!!!
We tend to want everything microwaved, quick fix. I hurt so I have to do something, anything to relieve the hurt and I must do it right now. That unfortunately is where we are.
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Although, someone else may see him in a totally different way than I do, and his habit of giving in to me and then resenting it, may never come up with GF because she may hand decisions to him, or say " you choose". Instead of my controlling everything behaviour.
Perhaps he NEVER made a decision and they had to be made thus putting that onto your shoulders. Eventually becoming a pattern and way of life for you two. Perhaps cows can fart hard enough to project them into orbit . Controlling behavior is more like a codependent thing, learn to allow others their rights to fail or succeed, just be there for them. Expectations!!! we want things to turn out a certain way so we control.
You can not change your past, but you can ruin a perfectly good present by worrying about the future.
. Controlling behavior is more like a codependent thing, learn to allow others their rights to fail or succeed, just be there for them. Expectations!!! we want things to turn out a certain way so we control.
