One other thing. Her FB account is tied to our email and we got an email in with the upcoming birthdays for the week. One of them is tattoo boy. She deleted the email, but I look at deleted emails all the time to see if there are any I wanted in there. It says his name and has his tatted up pic on it with his birthday in a week. Do I use this as a way to innocently ask who he is?

CB

Me; 42, W; 43
M; 16 yrs
S12, D9

3/13 - "I want to move to XYZ City (four hours away) and it might be without you, not sure"
5/13 - "Not sure I meant that"