You had to mention the smokes . Well I am off them still, but had more than a few blips over the months. Mainly when I get a bout of anxiety which happens every few weeks!
I had a few blips when I quit almost 25 years ago, and I had a W who was committed to me and quite supportive. You are quitting during the most stressful time of your life! Props to you sir. Just don't let the slip ups allow you to fall back into it. Now that you're running, there's no room in your lungs for smoke!!!
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Truth is I am finally getting W off that pedestal I had her on (at long last!)....which has been a sobering experience believe me.
I've done that too. Still want her though, warts and all.
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I truly take my hat off to the long timers on here. I am 8 mths post BD and starting to have doubts. The thought of being here for 2 yrs plus seems like a lifetime at the moment.
13 months here. I go through short periods where I just want to give up. The trick, I think, is to do what you have to do to enjoy your life. Then it doesn't seem so much like limbo.
What exactly are your doubts?
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This truly is hardcore!
Yes. Yes it is!
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Take care buddy and you keep on course. Don't push her and dig deep, remember you could still be here 12 months from now...are you prepared for that?
I ain't got no where else to go.
Honestly, the only way I see us parting is if she gets involved in an affair. I don't think I could tolerate that. Then I figure she'll want back in after fantasy land crumbles in a couple of years. Will I still want her if this happens? Donno.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
. Well I am off them still, but had more than a few blips over the months. Mainly when I get a bout of anxiety which happens every few weeks! 
