Your C asked you what you thought you were worth, and you left the impression you did not how to anwer. Your entire story tells how low your opinion of yourself is, and if it doesn't change, how can your relationships to change?
I really want your life to be happier. If you could meet up with 25yrs and kaffie, it could be one of the best things you've ever done. I believe I read on another thread, that she has a family member who had Aspergers. Honesty, I had forgotten that you had told us that you had it unti you mentioned it recently. I am very unlearned about the subject, and I'm sure you can recognize that fact by some things I've said.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!