Admitting you are a manipulator IS hard. I have had to do it as well. What's harder, I think, is that we believe we have the best interests of the other at heart, and justify the manipulation. Maddening.
And it is HARD to break this habit. It's a communication style, IMO. I'm still trying to break it.
congratulations on at least realizing it
Me 46 W 43 S 21 D 18 S 17 M 22 yrs Discovered OM 9/10/12 W moved to sister's 9/15/12 W moved to OM 9/27/12 Tried to DB until 7/13 W filed 10/7/13. Did not serve. I counter filed 12/2/13.