Hi FY, sorry sometimes I am sure I get a notification about a post and then later when I come back to read them there are more than I saw first time around. So I completely missed your comments yesterday.
My posts will be late until I'm off moderation.
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Looks like our W are similar in that this could have been triggered by death of a parent.
Yes! Her Mom was bedridden for several years, spent the last year in a nursing home, barely aware of us when we were there. My wife was there when Mom took her final breath. Everything changed quickly after that.
For them, it is not a crises, it is an awakening, and they feel like they are finally on the correct path. Everything in their past means nothing to them, including us. We only remind them of their life they see as a failure.
When we understand this it helps us to be compassionate towards them, and not take their rejection of us so personally. It really is about them, not us.
This is the greatest pain that you and I have likely faced in our life, but know that theirs is even worse!
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I know the response will be 'what's the point we are getting a D, you don't need to be the best H' So maybe a rewording in is order for me.
It doesn’t matter what they say. My wife said this and plenty of other horrible stuff, yet she’s still here. Choose your course and stay on it.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
